I’ve arrived at a place in my life where outcomes don’t need to go the way I needed them to anymore. People don’t need to act or respond the way that I had needed them to anymore either. I just want to Be and do what I came here to be and do whatever it is I am meant to do. I’m here to share whatever gifts I have with whoever I encounter. Whether it’s just a listening ear, a kind smile or a hand up somehow in life— this is all I want.

It’s a sad thing when others have a severely warped version of you in their head but there is nothing you can do about it, other than pity them. Because they will never know the real you, no matter how much you try to show them, they’re looking through a dirty lens. My advice, don’t go out of your way to prove yourself worthy to anyone. You will only feel more ‘worthless’ at the hands of others. Just focus on remembering and knowing who you are.

As we move into a new calendrical year (real new year is March 21st) it often has me thinking about what I learned in the last year. How did I grow? What personal accomplishments dotted the year of 2025? They’re MY accomplishments. They don’t have to mean anything to anyone else or WOW anyone, this isn’t the point of my personal reflection. But how about you?

Where did you grow? What battle or monster did you defeat in the silence of your own breath and busy mind? Where did you go within yourself that reveal another facet of who you are? I hope you’ll join me in thinking about these things and congratulating yourself for what you have done— big or small, it doesn’t matter. Think of it as weights keeping your hot air balloon from taking off skyward. Even a 2lb weight being released is going to contribute to your eventual sky adventure! Releasing one weight at a time, no matter how small or large will eventually get you off the ground. So do not discount the little victories. I often find them to be the most satisfying.

As I’m closing out the calendar year, I’ve been more focused on the things that I love, rather than the things that I don’t want. I’ve found that when I focus too much on the things I don’t like, it darkens my view of the rest of the world and its inhabitants. And— wherever we focus our attention increases in frequency and value.

Try it. Today or tomorrow, when you leave the house, I want you to think about red cars and trucks. I want you to think about how many people drive red cars. Ask where will the next red car show up? Look for red cars and trucks and I guarantee you the universe will bring you more red cars and trucks than you even realized are in your area.

I taught my son a fun manifestation game like this. We’d look for a SUV we liked and count how many we’d see. Or we see how many of our kind of truck was on the road that day. I wanted him to experience the power of the mind and its ability to bring to you, what you are looking for.

The trouble is, many people think about what they don’t want and talk about what they don’t want and wonder why it keeps showing up. This is where my love practice comes in. Finish out this year in love. You don’t need a mate. Fine if you have one, that’s fantastic— two are more powerful than one alone, becoming single minded. But finish the year releasing the need to focus on the negative and focus your sights on LOVE.

Love is what has kept me praying for people who have hurt me in unthinkable ways. Love is gravity, it keeps me here, hopeful and open. Love is what keeps us safe. Love breaks down walls and opens hearts. So many other actions and emotions have their foundation in love.

If you focus on love, more of what you love will find you. If you fall in love with life, life will enter a flow state where no matter what arises you have all that you need within and without to glide through it. Love makes life worth while. Love brings understanding and grace to people and circumstances.

If you can pause in your pain and your hurt before you take a swing back at someone, you will see and understand that their poor treatment toward you, isn’t about you. It’s about the pain that lives in them that is boiling over and seeping through all the cracks, ready to burst! It’s about the things that are fighting every day to try and hide but no longer can. Let’s face it, most people wear a mask, the word person has its foundations in the word persona, which is just a role, a mask… It is terrifying for most people to simply be who they are, broken pieces and all. This world has conditioned us to think being ourselves is to look weak and less than, but nothing could be further from the truth. Love finds understanding and empathy for all these things, for you, for me… love sees into spaces the person’s eyes cannot. Love sees the hurt that we hide and understands.

So, can you see why as this calendar year winds down, I am choosing to see this year through the lens of love? I’ll be taking this with me into 2026… Love will be the lens through which I view life and others. I will still maintain my boundaries and be wise with my energy but in the places where I have not been patient or sought to understand, I will see it through the lens of love. And this includes myself, I know in the past I have not given myself enough credit. I have to remember to be my own biggest cheerleader, I hope you do too.

May the lens of love spread across your view in 2026 and remain.

Blessings xx