When we were born, we carried the echoes of our parents and other ancestors’ nervous systems and ancestral baggage. We were born with the templates, the impressions upon our energetic fields.

It takes a good deal of conscious effort to avoid the pitfalls and traps set before we even got here. Sadhguru is the only one I’ve heard explain it quite well, followed by Don Miguel Ruiz jr/Sr.

Identification.

Identification with your roots, your family, your upbringing is the driving force behind these echoes springing to life and becoming ours. They’re there but we don’t have to take and collect them as though they were our own.
As children we are often subject to the opinions and projections of our elders, making us susceptible to not becoming who we truly are. Therein lies a challenge to not be obstinate but also be your own person and the only one who will be able to hold the space for this to happen, is an awakened parent.

An awakened parent isn’t born until that adult recognizes that their own childhood and identity was hijacked, in turn promising themselves that they will never do that to their children.

A lot of things are normalized within cultures and family circles that aren’t normal at all. I’d like to highlight some of those things now.
alcoholism
smoking
cursing
racism
sexual exploitation
sexism
addictions of all kinds
screaming instead of talking
passive agressive behaviors
stonewalling/silent treatment
blame
projection
judgement under the guise of concern
compliance under the guise of obedience/respect
silence
settling
helplessness
victimhood
narcissism
bullying
cruelty/badgering
violence

This is a short list of some of the ways of being have become normalized that are not normal at all. We become products of our environments and when we get older, it’s our job to recognize where things aren’t right and make them right.
It’s basic math but many people aren’t emotionally developed enough or self-aware to stop the cycle. I didn’t like it when XYZ happened when I was a kid, so I’m not going to do that to my kids. That’s simple math. But humans are reactionary beings and in a split second, they’re gone and done something that they shouldn’t have done and continued the cycle.

This has to end and we’re responsible to end it. It isn’t your mom’s fault anymore. It isn’t your dad’s or your grandparents, its wholly and fully your problem and it’s your fault the cycle continues.
I see a lot of people who complain about the state of the world right now but what actions are we taking at an individual level to change it? We’re the microcosm, what we see at large is the macrocosm. What we see in the world is just an eruption on the world stage of what has been going on at the micro level for centuries! This is nothing new! We do this on a daily basis, through the choices we make, the prejudices we hold, the identity we have for ourselves and how we conduct ourselves in the world. It’s on us. The shit we see on the news is on us because we’re first to jump all over it and make snap judgements about it. We don’t know the story. We never will. It’s impossible to know anyone else’s story, ever.

These sick cycles need to end. Will you continue to be party to them and blame the world around you, even though you create the world every single day with your thoughts? Everything is birthed in thought first. Make the connection and begin to turn this world around with those who have been at this for a long time. I would love to see the scale of balance to tip in the direction of the light again in my lifetime, but we must work together. We can’t be so entrenched in our culture, our addictions or hurts because it will ruin the life you were meant to have, it will consume you and any chance you have at a productive life.
We can do this but we have to do it together…

Blessings xx