When troubles come, what is your go to? What mode do you slide into in order to persevere or get through difficult times? What habits have you developed over the years and are they effective? Do you always come out on top, as unshaken as possible?

Or are your responses and reactions to troubling times unproductive or destructive? Do you head into the flames and face it head on or do you do all that you can to escape it?

Change comes. Change is the only constant in life, there is no way around it. Change has a tendency to come with brutal force to those who refuse to move with change. Our resistance to it is what creates the painful friction.

Change is crucial to grow us and expand us so that we do not stagnate. Stagnation is the precursor to death. Stagnation is the absence of growth.

Pain enters into the picture when we don’t move with the first nudging’s for change. Pain then becomes necessary to change us and move us along with the flow of where life is leading us.

We don’t always understand what we are doing here but we wouldn’t be here if we weren’t meant to be. And we wouldn’t be in the place that we are, if it weren’t a part of our story at that time. We meet the people that we are supposed to meet in order to accomplish whatever it was that we are meant to experience here. If this was not so, it would not have happened.

I have turned into a big believer of soul evolution and collective evolution. Not just this one lifetime but a collection of many, bringing fullness to the self. I often ponder the idea of carrying with me, the wisdom of my past lives, whether I am consciously aware of them or not but somehow by faith, lovingly infusing my daily life with the wisdom from my past lives. There have been many times in the last decade where I have just known things. No explanation. Never been taught it. I just knew it. Where else could this come from? Has this happened to anyone else? Do you believe in being where you are because you’re meant to be here, doing what you’re doing?

I’ve come to realize that the whole of life is taking it on faith because this place is too crazy to have no faith. This life would be too hard without simply trusting that whatever unfolds in life, was meant to unfold for the evolution of one’s own soul. Don’t you think that this is what causes so much discontent and sorrow in life? To fight against what happens and to cling to what has gone. I know for certain, that has been my greatest anchor in my own past. Not cutting ties and moving on when I should have, I hung onto the rope for too long and it burned my hands.

So, who was I when change came and I wasn’t prepared to move with it? In my 20’s I drank so I didn’t have to deal with the reality of my life and I smoked a bit of the green stuff too. I smoked at night to deal with the insomnia of not being able to put my mind at ease because life just wasn’t what it “should be,” or as I envisioned it to be. My life didn’t meet the worlds standards of where I was supposed to be and what I was supposed to be doing. So, I drank to hide from my shame, and I drank to numb the pain of feeling like an unsuccessful loser.

Unfortunately for me, I believed the worlds standards, and I believed my nuclear family and the painful things they projected onto me. So, I wanted to escape who I was because I didn’t know how to become what the world and my family said I was supposed to be. And then I became it. I became who the world and my family told me to be and it all literally imploded and guess what? I was miserable and I had to start all over again.

The moral of the story? Keep a clear mind. Don’t use escape methods or alcohol or substances. And the biggest one, ignore the world systems and what your family tells you. Especially if they’re asleep at the wheel (most are) because their ideals for you are not grounded in you becoming your highest, best self, it’s more about who they need you to be so they can feel safe and better about themselves.

When change comes, accept that you have been chosen to move forward. Because not everyone does. Not everyone gets to go on into the next dimension, the next timeline. Not everyone has the self-awareness and ability to examine themselves in order to evolve. When change comes, even though gritted teeth at first, be grateful because you’re moving, you’re not stagnating, you’re not being prepared for death and departure. When change comes, embrace it. Deal with the other emotions that comes along with change, grieve, feel sorrow— release, whatever you must do but at the end of the day, embrace it because you’re being called up. You’re being promoted into something else, some other puzzle to solve, another thing to learn. Another gift to share with the world and in doing so, furthering your soul’s evolution and the evolution of this planet.

Blessings xx